Time-out

“I want some time alone…” shouldn’t be a difficult ask for the times we live in.

I write this because I believe there have been many times where I’ve actually struggled with the idea of asking for a little space. It was always a very daunting task in between all my “people pleasing”. How could I possibly disrespect someone? I used to wonder. But now I know that taking time out for yourself is in no way a form of disregard for the other person. It is just a lot of respect and regard for yourself and your psychological needs. It’s important to take time out for yourself, to clear your mind and breathe a little. It helps get better clarity about the things you want, to tap into your potential and be the best version of yourself.

Time with yourself is not equal to loneliness or isolation. It isn’t social withdrawal or anything of that sort. It’s just space to just be with yourself, and BE yourself. A lot of our battles are internal, and most of the external ones too need to be fought alone. And it all begins with the amount of time you spend with yourself, and the understanding of your purpose in this world. There is no joy compared to the joy of just being. Being in the moment, being with the one person that knows you the most — YOU and being present without fear, judgement, guilt or remorse. Just being with your feelings and emotions, like a friend would. Just being there for YOU. It’s a beautiful practice which is often looked down upon for some reason. It isn’t about detachment or spiritual dogma or anything, it’s just about the beautiful relationship you have with your mind and body, and your willingness to honour the longest relationship you’ll ever have — the one with YOURSELF.

Here are some of the hacks to enjoy your time with yourself

• Think of one thing you wish you had the time to do at some point when you were busy — reading that book, listening to your favourite podcast influencer, journaling, gardening, making a customised piece of jewellery..anything really!
• Spend time with yourself and meditate to understand the different aspects of you that needs healing. Look at your inner child, accept and let go of what doesn’t serve you.
• Declutter — declutter and try to make space for those things and memories that spark joy* the kondo way.
• Gift yourself something — a personalised note, a little bookmark, a new piece of stationery..something, anything small(needn’t be extravagant)
• Stay silent, and still — try and practice silence for a bit, and just let the thoughts be, don’t try to stop anything, or overthink..just let it flow…be a silent observer

The next time you want some time out, go ahead and ask for it. It’s your right.